Narcissism Glossary
Blamed whatever you choose (double bind)
⛓️ A double bind is the contradictory setup of two clashing demands issued at once, so that every possible choice earns blame.
Trapped with no right move, it's easy to spiral into 'is something wrong with me?'
Trapped with no right move, it's easy to spiral into 'is something wrong with me?'
Often seen in situations like these
🗣️ "Take more initiative!" (you do) → "Why are you so pushy?"
🗣️ "Be honest with me." (you are) → "How could you even think something so awful?"
🗣️ "Be honest with me." (you are) → "How could you even think something so awful?"
When this happens, try this
💡 No amount of good explaining resolves this setup. Recognize it — 'this question blames me whichever way I answer' — and exit the pointless argument. Your peace is worth more.