Where the Self-Blame Stops and Your Own Standards Begin

Research statistics or a survivor's story — start with whichever view your heart leans toward.

If "is it me?" has been eating at you, start checking — objectively, one at a time — the words and behavior that actually kept repeating in the relationship.

Either place is a fine place to start. Calmly examine the words and behavior that kept shaking your judgment, and build the healthy boundaries that protect you.