Narcissist Behavior Q&A
🧩 They compare siblings and split them into camps
Pitting children against each other erodes the trust between siblings. What a parent relayed is best verified directly with the sibling it's about.
The short answer
Instead of competing for best child, compare notes on what each of you was told.
Scenes like this
- Each sibling got a different story, aimed to set them blaming each other.
- One got the pedestal; the other got the "problem child" label.
How to tell the difference
Noting that siblings differ is one thing. Ranking who's better is another.
When this happens, try this
- When a parent runs down another sibling, draw the line with composure: "I'll ask them about that directly."
- If you and your siblings can talk, honestly comparing what each of you was separately told clears up the manufactured misunderstandings.