The distance that protects your day
Does their face merely hardening send you into 'is this my fault?' and a long explanation?
Their saying they're uncomfortable doesn't instantly make it your fault. Confirm only what you actually did. Between their mood and your day, one buffer zone is needed.
Bring to mind the one relationship on your mind most these days. Choose by the repeated scenes, not one or two fights.
About 4 minutes
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Check safety first, now
Choosing an answer moves you to the next scene. It pauses only when safety needs a closer look.
My buffer zone, summarized
The scenes that shook your day, laid out. This is where the buffer zone gets built.
Their discomfort is not, by itself, your fault.
Scenes to check first
How to read this result
It means few scenes overlapped. On its own, this result can't declare the relationship safe.
Several zones overlap at once.
No need to rate the danger first. Just see which scenes overlapped.
Scenes to revisit first
Up to 3 situations to check first are shown.
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The minimum distance to hold today
Rather than rushing to fix their reaction, settle first on the confirmed facts and the distance you'll hold today.
Even the same relationship is worth revisiting when circumstances change.
This tool diagnoses no one and passes no verdict on the relationship. It's a reference for organizing repeated words and actions, and your reactions to them.