The reactions left inside, loosened one at a time
🧶 Caught between 'was I just as much at fault?' and drafting another long explanation?
A knot pulls tighter the harder you yank it. Choose the one relationship weighing on you, and trace the tangled strands one at a time.
Feelings and actions, sorted apart
What they did and what you did get separate ledgers. Only your own actions stay in your column.
Anger and hurt are feelings. Mocking, attacking vulnerabilities, and blocking money are actions.
Choose one relationship to examine.
The same sentences let you track your change.
Start with the scenes you said applied.
- Reactions where the past bleeds in: reactions where defense or anxiety arrived before the scene itself
- Reactions of over-explaining or enduring: reactions of over-explaining or shelving your own position despite the unfairness
- What I actually said and did: the words and actions you directed at them
- Actions to try next time: the words and actions to stop or change next time
Your answers and results are neither stored nor sent to a server.
Which relationship shall we look at?
Select the one relationship you'd like to examine.
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Some reactions and behaviors to revisit first
What the 20 situations showed
The first three figures count the reactions you said applied. 'What to try now' counts what you said you can do. None of them scores your mental state or the severity of harm.
Words and actions to stop first
Scenes to revisit first
View more scenes to revisit
Feelings and actions, viewed apart
Anger and hurt are feelings. Mocking, attacking vulnerabilities, and blocking money are actions.
What I'll change, and what can't be known
What they did and what you did get separate ledgers. Only your own actions stay in your column.