When you heard their words, did "am I really the problem?" cross your mind? Through 20 sentences, calmly separate the objective facts in front of you from the interpretations attached to them.

The result shows only how your sorting compared with the key. It doesn't rate your grip on reality or the extent of any harm — and it's no exercise in excusing or prettifying anyone's rudeness.

An interpretation is not automatically false or wrong. Here, 'interpretation' means meanings, evaluations, and predictions that this scene alone can't verify.

How the sorting works

👀 What actually happenedTheir voice got louder.

💓 My body and feelingsMy body froze and my heart raced.

💭 The interpretation attachedThe thought 'are they disrespecting me?' flashed by.

🧭 My conversation standardWhen voices rise, I pause the conversation.

Choose one relationship

Pick one: parent–child, marriage, dating, sibling, work, or friendship.

Sort 20 sentences

Sort the sentences holding only verified information from those with meaning and judgment mixed in.

Review the tricky ones

This is not a test of you. It calmly shows which sentences carried your interpretation.

🕘 About 5 min

See the references

This practice draws on CBT's account of automatic thoughts, opens in a new window and a meta-analysis of cognitive restructuring and psychotherapy outcomes, opens in a new window. Research on the theory of gaslighting, opens in a new window served only as background on how reality-testing can be shaken in close relationships. These sources have not validated this sentence bank or its answer key; the sentences and key were created for educational use. Nothing here replaces psychological testing, counseling, or legal judgment.

Your answers are never saved or sent to a server. Refreshing or restarting clears your selections.

Use the arrow keys to browse relationships. Press Space or Enter, or select a card, to start right away.

Parent–child

Marriage

Dating

Sibling

Work

Friendship

Here are this round's results

Shows how you sorted the 20 sentences.

0/20 Sentences sorted to match the key

0/10 Verified information only

0/10 Meaning or judgment mixed in

This score doesn't measure your judgment of reality or the extent of any harm. It's the practice result of objectively sorting this round's 20 sentences.

🧭 Choices that differed from the key

0 Mixed sentences marked as 'Verified information only'

0 Verified-only sentences read as interpretation

🧭 Today's rule

Their inner thoughts can stay unknown for now. Just write, in separate lines: the words heard, the behavior seen, your body and feelings, and the standard you'll hold.

🔎 Sentences to sort again

See the sentences that matched the key

🧩 Sorting your own situation, like this

This is no graded exam. When a scene comes to mind, write it out across the four columns.

👀 What actually happened: They cut me off.
💭 The interpretation attached: I felt my words didn't matter.
💓 My feelings and body: I was flustered and couldn't breathe.
🧭 My standard: If the interrupting continues, I stop the conversation.

Feelings are reactions you actually had. But feelings alone don't judge their intent or the whole situation.

🔁 One event and a repeating pattern are looked at separately

Repetition matters for spotting behavior patterns — but words and behavior experienced even once are still plain facts.

Fact vs. Interpretation

🔎 Does this sentence hold only verified information — or is meaning and judgment mixed in?

How the sorting works

Choose one relationship

Sort 20 sentences

Review the tricky ones

💞 Which relationship should we practice with first?

🧩 Practice results

Here are this round's results

🧭 Choices that differed from the key

🧭 Today's rule

🛟 Safety-guidance sentences excluded from scoring

🔎 Sentences to sort again

🧩 Sorting your own situation, like this

🔁 One event and a repeating pattern are looked at separately

Tools to continue with

💬 How the sorting works

Choose one relationship

Sort 20 sentences

Review the tricky ones

Fact-and-interpretation sentence practice

Here are this round's results

🧭 Choices that differed from the key

🧭 Today's rule

🛟 Safety-guidance sentences excluded from scoring

🔎 Sentences to sort again

🧩 Sorting your own situation, like this

🔁 One event and a repeating pattern are looked at separately

🧭 Tools to continue with

How the sorting works

Tools to continue with