Narcissist Test · 14 questions by relationship
🧠 Narcissist Test
Instead of diagnosing anyone, this test looks at the dismissal, pressure, and blame-shifting that kept repeating in one relationship, across 14 scenes — and helps you sort out the responses you can use now.
A passing conflict — or a repeating pattern?
Were there more days when the apology came and still didn't sit right than days you actually fought? Memory blurs, but the scenes remain. We don't start by judging their character — just choose the words and actions you actually experienced.
Pick the one relationship weighing on you most. There are 14 scenes to check.
Estimated time: about 3 min
A relationship that cycles between hurt and warmth
When hurt is followed by sudden apologies or warmth, it gets hard to judge the situation objectively. Separate the actual words and behavior before and after the switch, and examine each on its own.
When this cycle repeats, stepping away can get harder. Some describe it as 'trauma bonding.' Still, this result alone doesn't settle your view of the whole relationship.
See the criteria we drew on
For the question topics we drew on a 2024 research review of narcissistic traits and conversational patterns. That said, the 14 questions, the 7-point and 4-point weights, and the score bands here are not a validated clinical scale. They don't judge whether anyone has NPD or how dangerous a relationship is — use them only as reference values for organizing the words and behavior you chose.
Only scenes you lived
Of the 14, choose only the words and actions that actually happened.
Responses you can use now
We suggest ways to keep a record of what was said, and to build distance into contact and conversation.