Choose one relationship
Pick the one relationship weighing on you most right now.
Find the moments your standards waver
Does the same demand keep returning after you've said no?
When a demand keeps coming, you don't owe it a long explanation.
Decide your action in advance — ending the call, delaying your reply, moving seats.
20 representative situations
Walk through 20 scenes from the relationship you chose.
Decide your action for repeated demands
Choose what you'll do when the same thing continues.
What this tool means by a boundary
A boundary is not a speech that changes the other person. It's your standard for when you reply, what you take on, what touch you allow, what information you share. And when the same thing continues, it includes what you'll do.
Uncomfortable feelings and actual behavior get sorted separately. Even if you couldn't respond in the moment, your reaction isn't graded right or wrong.
Your chosen relationship and answers are neither stored nor sent to a server by this tool.
Which relationship weighs on you most?
Choose one relationship and 20 scenes follow.
Boundary questions
My boundary summary
A boundary isn't built in a day. This summarizes the reactions you chose across the 20 chosen-relationship scenes.
Safety factors to check first
View the remaining safety scenes of this type
Across the everyday boundary-crossing scenes,
your reactions are being summarized
No scores for harm or recovery here. The numbers below set aside the safety scenes and the negotiable ones, showing only the reactions you chose in everyday scenes.
'Spoke briefly, acted' by area
Negotiable scenes get their own look
One-time mistakes and mutually adjusted scenes stand apart. They don't mix with the scenes where the line got crossed repeatedly.
Scenes to revisit first
Each comes with the action you'll take when it happens again.