Do the things to fix and the things that aren't your fault keep blurring together?
Start with what was actually said and done. What you did gets set right; unverified verdicts and other people's choices don't get carried.
Your own mistakes get owned and fixed. Their unverified actions and inner thoughts don't get pronounced on.
What I did
The words and actions that actually happened
What they did
The words and actions confirmed in this scene
What we'll decide together
Roles, deadlines, costs — things to re-agree on
What isn't mine to decide
Their choices, and facts already past
Choose whether a scene matches something recent. If not, pick 'This situation hasn't happened'; if you can't judge yet, pick 'Not sure right now'.
About 4 minutes
Your answers and results are neither stored nor sent to a server.
Scenes for sorting responsibility
Choosing an answer carries you to the next scene. If a safety check appears, or you chose with arrow keys, you can also press Next.
What stays in your hands, and what can be let go
The numbers below aren't scores. They count your answers across these 20 scenes.
In this scene, safety comes first
You answered that physical threats, intimidation, or financial control occurred. If danger continues now, get somewhere safe before any settling-up or conversation.
- Crimes in progress and physical threats: 911
- Injuries and emergencies: 911
- Domestic violence support: 800-799-7233
Your answers this round
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Scenes to revisit first
Of the scenes you marked mixed or hard to separate, the first 3 are shown.
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This result is a reference for dividing responsibility. On its own it settles nothing about their character or the causes in the relationship.