Narcissism Glossary

making the child report on the other parent

๐Ÿ”Ž A control tactic that turns the child into an instrument of surveillance โ€” pressing them to collect the other parent's movements, private life, and company.

Questions needed to confirm safety and questions that surveil a private life must be told apart.

Often seen in situations like these

"Take a photo of who's at Mom's house." "Report where Dad went and when he got home โ€” every time."

When this happens, try this

๐Ÿ’ก Tell the child they bear no duty to report on adults' private lives. Necessary co-parenting information travels through the channel the parents agreed on.

Type everyday term ยท Topic Family, marriage & co-parenting ยท Term Using a Child for Monitoring ยท Also known as Using a Child for Monitoring

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