Narcissism Glossary
Understanding and excusing are different
🧭 Understanding is the intellectual work of grasping someone's history and its causes; excusing is the error of converting that history into a pardon that cancels responsibility for the wrong.
Understanding the background still leaves the responsibility for today's words and actions to be judged on its own.
Understanding the background still leaves the responsibility for today's words and actions to be judged on its own.
Often seen in situations like these
Learning about the hard childhood creates no obligation to accept the abuse.
When this happens, try this
💡 Write their circumstances and your experienced consequences on two separate lines. It helps keep understanding the background apart from accepting the unjust behavior.