Narcissism Glossary
Skipping needless defenses and debates (J.A.D.E.)
🙅♀️ The J.A.D.E. principle is a coping rule: don't burn energy on unreasonable blame and provocation by Justifying, Arguing, Defending, or Explaining.
When the same explanations keep falling on deaf ears, stopping the long defenses is how you protect yourself.
When the same explanations keep falling on deaf ears, stopping the long defenses is how you protect yourself.
Often seen in situations like these
🗣️ When the blame comes, skip the long "no, see, what actually happened was..."
🗣️ Instead, keep it short and draw the line: "That's how you see it. I see it differently."
🗣️ Instead, keep it short and draw the line: "That's how you see it. I see it differently."
When this happens, try this
💡 State only the essential facts, briefly. When the same nitpicking and blame loop back, "let's talk later" and a clean exit serve you better.