Narcissism Glossary
One child the pride, one child the problem (golden child & scapegoat)
👨👩👧👦 A dysfunctional family arrangement that assigns one child perfection and privilege (the golden child) while piling every problem's blame onto another (the scapegoat).
Both children are seriously wounded — the praised one and the unjustly blamed one alike.
Both children are seriously wounded — the praised one and the unjustly blamed one alike.
Often seen in situations like these
🏆 One child's achievements get paraded as the family's pride.
🐑 The other hears "this is your fault" no matter what goes wrong.
🐑 The other hears "this is your fault" no matter what goes wrong.
When this happens, try this
💡 Separate the 'role' your family stamped on you as a child from who you actually are now. Calmly writing out the choices you surrendered to family expectation or blame helps.