Narcissism Glossary

Old wounds claimed as license to mistreat (destructive entitlement)

🧱 The stance of converting one's own past wounds and victimhood into a license — treating present harm and mistreatment of others as an earned right.

Close to the forced logic of "I was a victim too, so I'm allowed to treat people however I like."

Often seen in situations like these

🗣️ "Do you know what I went through as a child? So this much, you owe me."
🗣️ What their old boss did to them becomes, once they're the manager, the justification for piling overtime and errands on their own juniors.

When this happens, try this

💡 Their sad past and the unfair behavior aimed at you are separate matters. A pitiable history obligates you to endure neither the abuse nor the unreasonable demands.

Topic Advanced concepts · Term Destructive Entitlement · Also known as Destructive Entitlement

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