Narcissist Behavior Q&A

๐Ÿงพ Date costs and gift money come with demands attached

Paying for dates buys no one your time, your heart, or your body. Demanding repayment on the strength of money spent is simply control.

The short answer

Paying for dates and gifts buys no claim to your company โ€” nor to touch or affection.

Scenes like this

  • The money spent got counted like a ledger, and your weekends were the payment due.
  • An expensive gift supposedly earned them sex or affection.

How to tell the difference

How to split dating costs can be decided together. Money spent can never compel your company or sex.

When this happens, try this

  • You owe no unwanted meetings or touch because someone paid for dates. If retaliation after refusing frightens you, never meet them alone.
  • If there's sexual coercion or threats, contact the RAINN National Sexual Assault Hotline (800-656-4673), and if danger is immediate, call 911 right away.

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