Narcissist Behavior Q&A
🧠Can I trust my memory and judgment again?
Long-running gaslighting can leave you unable to trust your own memory and judgment at all.
The short answer
When their story kept changing and what you saw kept getting denied, doubting even what you clearly witnessed becomes natural.
Scenes like this
- The message is right there, and you still feel like you're wrong.
- You make a decision, then immediately ask someone whether it's okay.
How to tell the difference
A few hazy memories don't make your judgment wrong across the board.
When this happens, try this
- Look at what can be verified — messages, dated records — and write one line of only what you remember as fact.
- Start small, like tonight's dinner: decide by your own choice before asking anyone.