Narcissist Behavior Q&A
💳 They comb through my account and card history and interrogate me
Reviewing a shared budget is plainly different from surveilling your private life. Calmly ask whether they disclose their own spending by the same standard.
The short answer
Reading your transactions and interrogating you without any agreement amounts to surveilling your spending — and your relationships.
Scenes like this
- They routed your card alerts to their own phone.
- Even one coffee got the question of who you drank it with.
How to tell the difference
Shared expenses can be reviewed together. Interrogating personal spending until it blocks who you see and where you go is surveillance.
When this happens, try this
- Check your bank and card apps for alert numbers or devices registered besides your own phone.
- Review joint accounts and your personal accounts separately, and if a charge you don't recognize appears, contact the card issuer right away.