Narcissist Behavior Q&A
😰 Could I have become the narcissist?
The yelling deserves its own honest look. But don't let one scene assign a diagnosis or define the whole relationship — weigh the context, the repetition, and the impact on the other person together.
The short answer
Worrying about your own reactions is no reason to hand yourself a diagnosis.
Scenes like this
- After enduring the cornering, you shouted — and then feared you were the abuser.
- You stated a boundary and got called selfish, and it shook you.
How to tell the difference
If you insulted someone or ignored their no, that behavior is yours to fix. Their surveillance and threats still don't become your responsibility.
When this happens, try this
Write separately: their sustained pressure, your final reaction, and the behavior you'd work on yourself. If the self-blame runs deep, going through it with a licensed therapist can bring an objective view.