Before the distance, check the preparation
A line isn't drawn by resolve alone. Before drawing it, sort what's already handled from what still remains.
If unfinished business remains — housing, money, caregiving, shared accounts — set the order first.
Four areas get checked: inner readiness, daily life, contact, recovery.
12 shared questions plus 8 for your chosen relationship — 20 in all.
Before setting the distance, calmly review your safety and readiness
Even drawing a line has an order. The line comes second — first comes the readiness to live inside it.
This tool works the same way, checking your current readiness across mind, daily life, contact, and recoveryin turn.
Inner readiness
conversation standards you'll keep without their agreement
Practical readiness
a place to stay, emergency funds, essential documents
Contact & account cleanup
shared accounts, location sharing, contact methods
Recovery readiness
what to do instead when the urge to reach out hits, and time to rest
About 7 minutes