Narcissism Glossary
even their deeds feel like your fault
🫣 The cognitive error of routing the causes of another's unjust words and abuse back to yourself — building self-blame and internalized shame.
Your mistakes and the responsibility for the abuse and lies they chose can be viewed separately.
Your mistakes and the responsibility for the abuse and lies they chose can be viewed separately.
Often seen in situations like these
They shouted — and you're the one apologizing to yourself for having angered them.
When this happens, try this
💡 Write what happened in two lines — "what I did / what they did." It helps separate what's yours to fix from the responsibility that was never yours to absorb.