Narcissism Glossary
Seeing people as only good or only bad (splitting)
⚫️⚪️ Splitting is the cognitive distortion of judging people and situations only at the extremes — all good or all bad. The middle is hard to see. Yesterday's perfect person becomes, over one small mistake, the worst.
It can surface when someone pedestaled suddenly gets torn down hard.
It can surface when someone pedestaled suddenly gets torn down hard.
Often seen in situations like these
😇 "You're the savior of my life! No one is as perfect as you!" (the pedestal)
👿 "You're the worst mistake of my life! Everything is ruined because of you!" (the teardown)
👿 "You're the worst mistake of my life! Everything is ruined because of you!" (the teardown)
When this happens, try this
💡 Yesterday's "the best" can become today's "the worst." Neither verdict describes all of you. Watch the actual behavior and the standards you'll keep — not the extreme reviews.