Narcissism Glossary
Hoovering
🌪️ In writing on narcissism, hoovering refers to the contact and behavior aimed at restarting a relationship that has ended. Not a formal diagnostic term.
It can look like a sudden check-in, a walk down memory lane, or a grand apology on approach.
It can look like a sudden check-in, a walk down memory lane, or a grand apology on approach.
Often seen in situations like these
💬 After months of silence: "You up?", "I was just thinking of you..."
👍 Likes and comments start appearing on your posts, marking their presence.
🙏 "It was all my fault. I can't do this without you." — and they ask to meet again.
👍 Likes and comments start appearing on your posts, marking their presence.
🙏 "It was all my fault. I can't do this without you." — and they ask to meet again.
When this happens, try this
💡 When the contact returns, watch the behavior that follows, not the words. Check whether they name their problem behavior specifically. Watch whether your no and your pace are respected, and whether the change lasts. Answering after you've verified that is not too late.