Narcissism Glossary
The rules that erase family problems (family myths)
📜 Dysfunctional rules built on shared distorted beliefs — 'nothing is wrong in our family' — that keep the household's real problems and hidden control from ever surfacing.
A family's good memories and its verified harmful behavior can exist side by side.
A family's good memories and its verified harmful behavior can exist side by side.
Often seen in situations like these
👨👩👧👦 Dad's alcoholism becomes 'he just enjoys a drink,' and everyone plays along.
🤫 Mom's behavior that wounded the family gets wrapped as 'her own special way of loving.'
🤫 Mom's behavior that wounded the family gets wrapped as 'her own special way of loving.'
When this happens, try this
💡 Set the family's official story aside and write separately the words you actually heard, the behavior you saw, and the effects on you. Sharing only what's needed, with someone trustworthy, is allowed.