Narcissism Glossary
Affection as reward, coldness as punishment (reward & punishment)
🎁😠 Punishment and reward is the relational method of alternating affection and praise for compliance with coldness and anger for refusal.
Sustained, it leaves you forever reading their face to avoid the next freeze.
Sustained, it leaves you forever reading their face to avoid the next freeze.
Often seen in situations like these
👍 Obedience earns lavish praise and gifts. (Reward)
👎 The smallest defiance earns days of silence or blame. (Punishment)
👎 The smallest defiance earns days of silence or blame. (Punishment)
When this happens, try this
💡 Your standards need not be traded for praise. Watch whether affection and coldness are being used as levers on your choices.