Narcissist Behavior Q&A
🧮 My spending gets audited; theirs stays hidden
Controlling your every purchase in the name of thrift while hiding their own spending is an unfair double standard.
The short answer
Different spending styles are one thing. One person holding all the records and all the decisions is another.
Scenes like this
- Your spending got audited down to the receipts; theirs stayed hidden.
- Household money got spent, and where it went was never said.
How to tell the difference
Do both sides disclose by the same standard? Are large sums decided together?
When this happens, try this
- Separate the joint household account from each person's personal spending money clearly, and ask for specifics on the opaque expenses.
- On large loans or investment paperwork they're driving, don't consent or sign until you've verified the full details with your own eyes.