Narcissist Behavior Q&A
🧸 After a fight, all the child and pet care lands on me
A child's care and a pet's care can never be weapons for punishing a partner. Whatever the adults' fight, the innocent lives in the house keep their routines.
The short answer
Cutting off care over a fight is wrong. The routines of children, pets, and sick family members continue regardless.
Scenes like this
- Until you apologized: no school drop-offs, no doctor visits, no meals.
- A breakup would mean never seeing the child or the pet again.
How to tell the difference
Is this a scheduling issue — or care being cut off, and access threatened, after a fight?
When this happens, try this
- Set the schedule in writing — school runs, doctor visits, meal duty — and hold them to it by text.
- If they may refuse care or neglect outright, line up friends, temporary caregivers, or your local child protective services and animal welfare agencies in advance.