Narcissist Behavior Q&A
🏠 I get no say in my in-laws' affairs
In-law matters are for the couple to negotiate with mutual respect. One side sacrificing unilaterally and enduring everything is not required.
The short answer
Marriage doesn't obligate you to every demand from your spouse's family.
Scenes like this
- Visits, money for the in-laws, and event schedules got decided without asking you.
- When you voiced discomfort, your spouse sided with their family every time.
How to tell the difference
Different family cultures aren't the problem. Spending your time and money at will is. And no one can assign you work you didn't agree to.
When this happens, try this
- Negotiate your line on visits, money, and events with your spouse calmly, when it's just the two of you.
- If agreement won't come, deliver your position firmly: "This time I'll participate up to here — that's what I can carry."