Narcissist Behavior Q&A

🧊 I said no, and now they threaten to cut off support

Threatening to cut off support is retaliation for your no. Coordinating spending is entirely different from using money to frighten you.

The short answer

Cutting off money because you declined sex, a family event, or a call is using money to intimidate.

Scenes like this

  • They said skipping their family's gathering would get your card frozen first.
  • You said you wanted out, and they said the child support would stop.

How to tell the difference

A budget can change when income drops. But money may not be cut off, or made conditional, because you said no.

When this happens, try this

  • Keep your bank and spending records, and write down what you'd agreed to split. Check that you have a minimum emergency fund you can reach right now.
  • For questions about your legal rights — child support, division of marital assets — get accurate counsel through a legal aid office (find one at LawHelp.org).

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