Narcissist Behavior Q&A
🏠 All I get are promises to change
Look past "I'll really do better" to whether anything has actually changed right now.
The short answer
What matters isn't the promise to do better — it's whether behavior has already changed.
Scenes like this
- Next month the drinking stops and the outbursts end — but there was never a concrete plan.
- Everything would be fine once you married, once you moved, once the promotion came.
How to tell the difference
Plans can shift. What matters is a clear what-and-when — and whether it has actually started now.
When this happens, try this
Ask for the specific plan: what changes, by when, and how. It's safer to watch, over time, whether behavior actually changes and whether the change holds — rather than trusting the words.