Narcissist Behavior Q&A
🧑🤝🧑 They keep measuring me against other people
Constant comparison chips away at your self-worth. Don't take relayed remarks at face value — sort out what can actually be verified.
The short answer
You don't have to out-compete other people to keep a relationship.
Scenes like this
- "My ex would have done this much" — and the pressure followed.
- A coworker had supposedly bad-mouthed you — but checking directly was off-limits.
How to tell the difference
Work and results sometimes get compared. Telling each person a different story and blocking them from comparing notes is something else.
When this happens, try this
Verify relayed criticism with the person it supposedly came from. Don't defend against every forced comparison — keep the conversation on the actual issue between the two of you.