Narcissist Behavior Q&A
🎭 A wonderful person in public, someone else at home
A glowing public reputation doesn't cancel the abuse spoken at home — each gets examined on its own.
The short answer
Everyone calling them kind doesn't erase what happened to you.
Scenes like this
- Charming in public; insults and orders at home.
- Gracious with the boss; shouting reserved for juniors.
How to tell the difference
Demeanor can shift with circumstances. Watch whether the rudeness lands only on close people and those below them.
When this happens, try this
Don't exhaust yourself persuading everyone who says "they'd never." Showing one person who truly trusts you what happened — with the conversation records — is far more effective.