Narcissist Behavior Q&A
🪞 Do they know their behavior is a problem?
Whether it's knowing or oblivious is hard to guess. Observe instead whether, once their wrong is named, they take responsibility and try to correct it.
The short answer
Rather than divining whether they know, watch what they do after the problem is pointed out.
Scenes like this
- The apology came with "it only happened because you're so sensitive."
- They picked up psychology terms — and used them to analyze and corner you.
How to tell the difference
Where there was a real problem, the specific wrong behavior can be named. Then watch whether correcting behavior actually follows.
When this happens, try this
Even if it feels like only hearing their full reasons will bring peace, don't strain for it. More reliable than any "I'm sorry" is whether behavior actually changes after the apology.