Narcissist Behavior Q&A

🕵️ My ex digs through mutual friends for my schedule and number

A light "how are they doing" is different from persistently mining friends for your movements and your new number.

The short answer

After contact ends, pumping your friends for your information can itself be unwanted contact.

Scenes like this

  • They asked a friend for your new number and where you work.
  • In the group chat, they probed for when and where you'd show up.

How to tell the difference

Is it a passing hello — or are they collecting your new number, home, workplace, and schedule even after being told no?

When this happens, try this

  • Ask mutual friends firmly: "Never pass my information or whereabouts to my ex."
  • If signs of stalking appear — tracking your movements through friends, trying to find you — save the reports friends give you and call 911 without hesitation.

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