Narcissism Glossary
Turning their behavior and feelings into your problem (projection)
📽️ A psychological defense that pins one's own wrongs or unacceptable feelings onto the other person. Not a mind-reading claim — a concept for noticing when the actual behavior and the direction of blame have swapped places.
When they broke the promise and you're the one hearing "irresponsible," the confusion — "is it really my fault?" — is natural.
When they broke the promise and you're the one hearing "irresponsible," the confusion — "is it really my fault?" — is natural.
Often seen in situations like these
🗣️ They break the promise, then accuse: "You never keep your word. You can't be trusted!"
🗣️ Mid-outburst, they ask: "Why are you so angry all the time?"
🗣️ Mid-outburst, they ask: "Why are you so angry all the time?"
When this happens, try this
💡 Instead of decoding their inner world, sort out who did what.
Writing down the promises, dates, and actual words makes any scrambled responsibility easy to see.
Your behavior stays yours; their behavior stays theirs.
Writing down the promises, dates, and actual words makes any scrambled responsibility easy to see.
Your behavior stays yours; their behavior stays theirs.