Narcissism Glossary
Endless demands with ever-shifting standards (moving the goalposts)
🥅 The practice of raising the bar or changing the terms the moment an agreed goal is met, keeping the other person permanently insufficient.
No effort ever earns the praise or recognition — only the self-blame of 'I'm never enough.'
No effort ever earns the praise or recognition — only the self-blame of 'I'm never enough.'
Often seen in situations like these
💼 "Bring home $3,000 a month and I'll respect you." → (achieved) "Only $3,000? It should be $5,000."
💍 "Once we're married, I'll treat you well." → (married) "Once we have a baby..." → (baby) "Once the kid gets into a top college..."
💍 "Once we're married, I'll treat you well." → (married) "Once we have a baby..." → (baby) "Once the kid gets into a top college..."
When this happens, try this
💡 Watch whether the terms keep changing even as goals get met. Rather than thirsting for their praise, practice crediting the achievements you've already earned yourself.