Narcissism Glossary
When the hurt starts to feel ordinary (normalization)
🔄 An adaptive state in which sustained exposure to unfair or abusive treatment makes it register as ordinary and expected.
Your heart having grown used to it never makes the abuse or the unfairness legitimate.
Your heart having grown used to it never makes the abuse or the unfairness legitimate.
Often seen in situations like these
💭 'Couples just fight like this. Hurting each other is part of it.'
💭 'Their love is just a little rough around the edges — it doesn't mean they don't love me.'
💭 When people voice worry, the defense comes first: 'you just don't understand what we have.'
💭 'Their love is just a little rough around the edges — it doesn't mean they don't love me.'
💭 When people voice worry, the defense comes first: 'you just don't understand what we have.'
When this happens, try this
💡 Before waving it off with "everyone probably lives like this," write the recent wounding words in a notebook, exactly as said. If judging alone feels impossible, going through it with someone who truly cares — or a counselor — helps.