Narcissism Glossary
Love and approval only upon compliance (conditional love)
🎁 A reward-based attachment style that dispenses affection and approval only when their expectations, achievements, and obedience standards are met.
In such relationships, affection can function like currency. Fall short of expectations, and the contact and warmth get cut off as pressure.
In such relationships, affection can function like currency. Fall short of expectations, and the contact and warmth get cut off as pressure.
Often seen in situations like these
🗣️ Cross their wishes, and days of silence follow — no words, no contact, no warmth.
🗣️ "Obey and you're one of us; defy me and you're no family of mine" — and out you go.
🗣️ "Obey and you're one of us; defy me and you're no family of mine" — and out you go.
When this happens, try this
💡 In a respectful relationship, affection is not a reward granted and revoked to compel obedience. Watch whether contact and warmth get cut off to pressure your choices.