Narcissist Behavior Q&A

🎯 I meet the demand, and the conditions change again

Check whether the conditions changed again even after you met the demand. Write the original agreement and the current demand side by side.

The short answer

If the bar moves every time you clear it, no amount of complying will ever be enough.

Scenes like this

  • You did the housework — and got blamed again for doing it the wrong way.
  • You delivered results — and this time the problem was your attitude.

How to tell the difference

Standards can adjust with circumstances. What matters is whether the change is explained and agreed on before it happens.

When this happens, try this

Get in writing — a text is fine — exactly what counts as the promise fulfilled. When a demand drifts from the original agreement, say "that's not what we agreed" and re-confirm the standard.

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