Narcissist Behavior Q&A
✋ They shoved and hit me — is once okay?
Even once is not something to let pass. Start by checking whether you're hurt and whether you're somewhere safe right now.
The short answer
Look at the behavior before the count. Shoving and hitting are physical violence even when they leave no mark.
When this happens, try this
- Check yourself slowly for injuries and get medical care if you need it.
- If you feel threatened right now, don't face it alone — get somewhere safe and call 911 immediately.
Scenes like this
- They shoved you or grabbed your wrist hard, saying they were angry.
- They apologized, then blamed alcohol or stress.
How to tell the difference
Anger doesn't make harming your body legitimate. An apology doesn't make the violence not have happened.