Narcissist Behavior Q&A
🗂️ What records should I keep at work?
Records built on objectively provable facts hold up better than emotional assessments or subjective judgments.
| What to keep | What to write |
|---|---|
| Work instructions | Date, owner, deadline |
| changed instructions | What changed, and how |
| Penalties | Reviews, schedules, pay — before and after |
The short answer
More useful than the conclusion "bad boss" are the dates, the instructions, the changes, and the outcomes.
Scenes like this
- Assignments kept shifting, and later the responsibility was somehow yours.
- The insults repeated — and never once appeared in the meeting minutes.
How to tell the difference
This doesn't mean deleting your feelings. It means writing so anyone reading can tell what happened.
When this happens, try this
- Note briefly the who, what, when, where — date, location, speaker, the specific instruction or abusive remark, and the consequence (a review penalty, say).
- Within your company's information security rules, it's wise to steadily archive emails, chat screenshots, and a personal work log.