Narcissist Behavior Q&A
🪪 They took my ID and keys and won't give them back
These are essentials your daily life and movement depend on. You don't have to meet the absurd conditions they attach to returning them.
The short answer
Taking or withholding your ID, passport, keys, or phone can cut off your movement and your choices.
When this happens, try this
- Report the loss and start replacements first — your state's DMV for a driver's license, the State Department for a passport.
- Meeting them one-on-one to retrieve your things can be dangerous, so don't go alone — bring in help from people around you.
Scenes like this
- When you tried to leave, they hid your car keys and house keys.
- They held onto your passport, claiming to keep it safe.
How to tell the difference
Briefly entrusting something is different from demanding a meeting, money, or an apology as the price of getting it back.