Narcissist Behavior Q&A
😵 Every conversation leaves me wondering if I'm too sensitive
A steady diet of "you're too sensitive" makes the original issue disappear. Before questioning your sensitivity, calmly examine what they actually said and did.
The short answer
"You're too sensitive" doesn't erase what they did.
Scenes like this
- You named the sarcasm, and got "there you go making a scene again."
- You raised the broken promise, and were told to fix your personality first.
How to tell the difference
If your tone was harsh, that can be worked on. It still doesn't erase the promise they broke or the insult they delivered.
When this happens, try this
When "am I overreacting?" creeps in, write two columns: your tone, and the behavior you're verifying. Reflecting on your tone and confirming a broken promise or an insult can happen at the same time.