Narcissist Behavior Q&A
đ§ I clearly heard it, but they say they never said it
When your memory keeps getting denied, you start doubting yourself. Ordinary forgetfulness and sustained distortion of the facts are plainly different.
The short answer
Their denial alone is no reason to rule your own memory wrong.
Scenes like this
- Yesterday's promise got denied today as if they'd never heard of it.
- The message is right there, and still it was only ever "not what I meant."
How to tell the difference
Anyone can forget. What matters is whether, shown the record, they acknowledge it and set it right.
When this happens, try this
Jot just the date and one sentence of what they actually said in a notebook. You don't have to spend the whole night arguing to prove your memory right.