Narcissist Behavior Q&A
👣 I told them not to come, but they show up at my home or work
You said no clearly, and they keep coming anyway. You don't have to go out alone to explain or calm them down.
The short answer
You told them not to come, and they keep turning up where you go. This can become a safety issue.
When this happens, try this
- Tell people who can help — building security or the front desk, coworkers, family — what's going on.
- Move first to a safe place with people around. If there's trespassing, following, or an attempt to get in, don't hesitate — call 911.
Scenes like this
- They were waiting outside your home, in the office parking lot, at your gym.
- They kept coming to your door on the excuse of a delivery or a gift.
How to tell the difference
One unannounced visit is different from repeated visits after you've said no. And even once — if they broke in or threatened you, get help right away.