Narcissist Behavior Q&A
๐ก๏ธ Their bad mood is always, somehow, my responsibility
You can be considerate of someone you love โ but their bad moods are not all yours to answer for.
The short answer
If you caused hurt, you can reflect on it. But their every mood is not yours to answer for.
Scenes like this
- Even on their hard day at work, you "failed to read the room."
- A parent's disappointment got billed as the child's ingratitude.
How to tell the difference
If your words or actions caused specific hurt, an apology is yours to give. But a demand to manage their mood โ with no word on what the problem was โ is not yours to obey.
When this happens, try this
Write down whether anything you said or did deserves reflection. Without a specific reason, their moods don't all become your responsibility.