🙏 Every apology ends with "but you..."

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Watch whether "I'm sorry, but you..." routes the responsibility back to you. Check, too, whether the behavior actually changed after the apology. The short answer Watch whether the apology clearly owns what they did. Scenes like this "I'm sorry, but you got touchy first." "I never meant it that way" — and the only problem left was that you got hurt. How to tell the difference Explaining circumstances is fine. What matters is whether they own their behavior and its consequences without excuses. When this happens, try this Ask: "Can you tell me which behavior you're apologizing for?" Watch not just the words, but whether the same behavior actually shrinks and changes afterward.

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🔎How to tell the difference

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The short answer

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How to tell the difference

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