Narcissist Behavior Q&A
🧺 The work we agreed to share always ends up mine alone
Notice whether the housework you agreed to share keeps landing on you. Write down who agreed to take what — and who actually did it.
The short answer
Occasionally covering a shared task is different from it defaulting, permanently, to one person.
Scenes like this
- They did the childcare and housework only when asked — and it still counted as your job.
- When you declined family caregiving, you were the one with no heart.
How to tell the difference
Roles can be redrawn when times are hard. Watch whether the work keeps pooling on one person.
When this happens, try this
Put each person's role and share in writing. Handle what can't wait — a child, a patient — first, and re-divide whatever keeps piling onto one person.