Narcissist Behavior Q&A
⚖️ Same behavior, but only mine is a problem
They act as they please while holding you to a strict double standard. It's worth asking whether the rules are rigged one-sidedly in their favor.
The short answer
Check whether the same rules apply to both of you evenly.
Scenes like this
- Their lateness was fine; yours was disrespectful.
- The parent's yelling was fine; the child's protest was insolent.
How to tell the difference
Different responsibilities can carry different standards. Watch whether voicing a different opinion brings punishment.
When this happens, try this
Write side by side the rules they demand of you and the rules they keep themselves. You're allowed to ask whether the standard runs both ways.