Narcissist Behavior Q&A
⚠️ They threaten to kill or hurt me
You don't need to work out whether they mean it. A specific threat is a danger signal that calls for an immediate response.
The short answer
You don't have to figure out whether they mean it. Check first whether there's a real risk they'll show up or hurt you.
When this happens, try this
- Keep the threatening messages and call recordings somewhere safe. But if being caught saving them would put you in danger, getting to safety comes before the records.
- If there's a risk they'll show up or hurt you now, don't hesitate — call 911.
Scenes like this
- They said they know where you live and will come find you.
- They threatened harm, mentioning a weapon, a car, or people you know.
How to tell the difference
Even framed as a joke, words that describe hurting you in specific terms are a danger signal.